Have you ever wondered how others might be interpreting what you don’t say? Even when you do not utter a single word, your behavior can give other people a clue about what you are thinking. Your body language not only gives others hints about your personality, body language is often a reflection of how you perceive yourself.

Now might be the time to take a closer look at how others see you. You can learn to develop your body language skills as a way to make a positive impression, or if you lack assertiveness, improving your body language might be the way to build a better rapport with others.

Head and Eye Movement

Have you ever wondered how others might be interpreting what you don’t say?

Have you ever wondered how others might be interpreting what you don’t say?

If you tilt your head while you are listening, that tells the person talking that you are interested in what her or she is saying. On the other hand, if your eyes are downcast, that can be perceived as a sign that you are bored with the conversation.

Maintaining eye contact with people makes them feel special. You can even use this technique to connect with an entire audience of listeners. Why? Because people feel like you are talking to them directly as individuals. People also do not want to feel as if you are distancing yourself from them.

Gestures From Other Body Parts

Use hand gestures when you are speaking to emphasize what you are saying. You can move other parts of your body as well. Physical gestures show people that you are both engaged and interested in the topic you are discussing. Don’t be afraid to be passionate about what you are saying. Your gestures should portray your competence and purpose.

Be aware of your posture whether you are sitting, standing or walking.

You want your body movements to give people the impression that you are confident, intelligent, and motivated. The good news is bad posture can be corrected and you can learn how to use body language to your best advantage.

Crossing your arms across your chest tells people that you do not want to be approached. If you stand with shoulders drooping and chest slumped forward, others are going to think that you lack self-confidence. Instead you want people to know that you are interested in what is happening around you. People are not likely to talk to you if your body language sends them the message that you are detached from your environment.

Hands clasped behind your back as you walk tell people that they had better get out of your way. This behavior signals to others that you are either frustrated or angry. In a similar way, others may think that you are discouraged if you walk with your shoulders hunched and your hands in your pocket.

Walk This Way

You don’t want to be frightening people away. Be conscious about your body language so that you can use gestures that other people find non-threatening. Walking straight and tall tells people that you are confident. At the same time, you want to appear relaxed. People will feel more comfortable approaching you if don’t seem tense.

Walk with your shoulders and head up, arms relaxed at your side. Tilt your head just a little. Men should avoid walking with their heads down and hands in their pockets. Whether you are a man or woman, you need to be aware of your surroundings and focus on the people around you. Slow down your pace. This will make you look more approachable. The same goes for sitting. Relax but lean slightly forward in your chair to show that you are interested.

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